If 2012 has taught me anything, it’s that being alive is not a right or a given. Spend your life doing something you love.
An excerpt from a letter F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote to his 11 year old daughter at camp. Funny how almost 80 years later it is still so applicable.
“Things not to worry about:
Don’t worry about popular opinion
Don’t worry about dolls
Don’t worry about the past
Don’t worry about the future
Don’t worry about growing up
Don’t worry about anybody getting ahead of you
Don’t worry about triumph
Don’t worry about failure unless it comes through your own fault
Don’t worry about mosquitoes
Don’t worry about flies
Don’t worry about insects in general
Don’t worry about parents
Don’t worry about boys
Don’t worry about disappointments
Don’t worry about pleasures
Don’t worry about satisfactions”
This year we sadly weren’t interviewed by an Asian television crew, but one of our pictures did make it on the Gothamist website! I’m happy we did because it was Lauren’s first Mermaid Parade. This woman at the parade is my hero – I hope I still get out and about like she does at her age and doesn’t let anything stop her!
This post is adapted from an email I sent to a lucky few yesterday and thought was worth posting for more people to see:
“The elections are coming soon and I know not everyone’s been overwhelmed by Obama, but I found a cool campaign called 90 Days, 90 Reasons that reviews what he’s done over the past 4 years. And a little intro piece about it. Many of us are women (or have daughters and women they love!) and I think it’s important to note what Obama’s done for women, including health care, birth control, trying to stop violence against women, and pushing for equal pay to name a few.
On that note, we all probably heard about Romney’s VP pick this weekend. There’s a lot of talk about his new economic plan that would benefit not one person on this email (unless someone’s rolling in dough and I’m unaware – if so, please invest in my business!), but another note is extreme anti-choice views and I think it’s important to note and spread among other women and men that you know. You can find his little piece here. It’s longish and dense, but I want to highlight a few things in it:
- First and foremost, there’s a lot of talk about protecting life and rights of humans and the words “woman/women” or “mother” are not mentioned ONCE. I find it odd that this the main subject of this piece is both freedom and choice, but if you’re a woman those no longer apply to you.
- This man voted to enter both wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. Not what I would consider a consistent approach on avidly protecting life. He would also like to cut a variety of government programs, many that benefit our soldiers and returning veterans from said war. Currently more soldiers and veterans die by their own hand in this country than are dying overseas. That’s disturbing and sad.
- He claims that conservatives can help bridge the gap between the “pro-life” and “pro-choice” while using this inflammatory language. I am proudly both pro-life and pro-choice, and this a view that Ryan and his conservative crew blatantly ignore. The campaign to support options for women’s health is not about promoting abortion – what both sides have in common is our desire to minimize abortion as much as possible; our major distinction really is not abortion but about how we view women as human beings with full rights that are not slaves to their uteri.
- “Under capitalism, people exercise their right to choose products and services they prefer, to pursue the job or career they desire, the business they wish to establish or deal with, the kinds of investments and savings they favor, and many more options. These choices reflect individuals’ hope to improve their lives and to develop their full human potential.” Sounds like something I’d say, right? Yea, he wrote this… He apparently doesn’t know that limiting family size offers a range of benefits to many issues in this world, including women and children’s easier ability to pursue a job or career they desire..
I could keep writing, but I’ll spare you because I think these are the important notes, you get the drift and if you want to read more you can read this piece. Keep reading and spread the word about this party and what they really think you, your friends and family are worth (economically and socially)! So if you aren’t registered to vote, there’s a link in on the 90 Days, 90 Reasons website – register and vote!!!”
Loovveeee this mashup! Definitely helped me get through my 13 hour workday on Sunday!
(P.S. I’m now working a few days a week at the Mulberry Project – stop by and say hi!)
Ashley Judd on women in the media:
“That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women.
A case in point is that this conversation was initially promulgated largely by women; a sad and disturbing fact.
. . .I ask especially how we can leverage strong female-to-female alliances to confront and change that there is no winning here as women. It doesn’t actually matter if we are aging naturally, or resorting to surgical assistance. We experience brutal criticism. The dialogue is constructed so that our bodies are a source of speculation, ridicule, and invalidation, as if they belong to others—and in my case, to the actual public.
. . .The insanity has to stop, because as focused on me as it appears to have been, it is about all girls and women. In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed, according to heteronormative definitions of masculinity that deny the full and dynamic range of their personhood. It affects each and every one of us, in multiple and nefarious ways: our self-image, how we show up in our relationships and at work, our sense of our worth, value, and potential as human beings. Join in—and help change—the Conversation.”
(Full article here)
One of my absolute favorite magazines of all time is National Geographic. Fuck Vogue, W, Cosmo, etc. – you got nothing on nature and science.
Interesting article about how we really use our time, and the quote is food for thought:
“Change your language. Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”
So imaginative, beautiful, and perfectly executed. Bravo Cartier!
“I am dressed up for the theater, of my life, everyday.”
I cannot express through this post how inspiring and fantastic these women are. They are so confident and wise and within this 4 minute video I wanted to list at least a dozen quotes from the various women! And the greatest compliment that I’ve received in awhile was from a friend who said that I (and she) would be like this in 40-50 years!
Who’s seeing this with me this summer?!